Showing posts from December, 2013

2014 GOALS

In a few more days 2013 will be gone, and 2014 will be here. So I am setting goals.

While I am not big on setting daily or weekly goals for myself, I do set long-term goals that I attempt to time manage. I say attempt, because I'm not great on time management either. Since I retired, a definite schedule is no longer necessary, and I have to say I wasted a lot of this year just getting used to not having to manage work, home, family, friends, and whatever else the world decided to throw at me. This year will be different.

Now that I have launched my dream career as an author and writer, I find it a necessary tool to keep me on task. However, I need your help. So I am going to set my goals in stone by writing them here for all of you to see. Then each month, I will bring you up-to-date on where I am in the scheme of things. I am asking that you--my friends--hold me accountable. So here they are:

See my non-fiction book The Great Camel Experiment of the Old West published. It is unde…
FAT SMEARING This is the last of my series on bullying as it relates to kids. Yes, bullying still happens to adults. Bosses bully, co-workers bully, mates bully, and even parents bully. However, since my primary interest is increasing awareness about kid-bullying, the other types of intimidation will have to be left to a later time. Instead, I want to talk about fat smearing—that is making fun of someone because of his/her weight. Yes—I know, some of you will see this and say, “Well she feels that way because she is fat.” Yes, I am. However, I am an adult, and I have to power to tell you where to jump. Kids do not. Today, one out of every three kids in America is overweight. Everyone from the First Lady, Michelle Obama, to Hollywood celebrities and well-known athletes have climbed on the bandwagon to bring attention to the “problem” and encourage parents to get their children to move and eat better. Great idea. But what happens when both parents have to work to put food on the table, an…
Fighting Back: Is it the Answer to Bullying?
I was only seven years old when my babysitter put boxing gloves on me and told me to “duke it out” with the boy who was constantly harassing me. It was a short fight—he was nine and had twenty pounds on me. I suffered a bloody nose, a black eye, and several scratches on my knees from where I fell in the gravel, and a bruised ego. In this case, fighting back did not work and only made the bullying worse—until I told my dad, and he stepped in.
Today, there are many people—teachers, parents, and counselors—who agree with that babysitter many decades. They believe the only way to stop a bully is to fight back. But, is fighting back the answer? In truth—No.
While a good thumping might make a bully back off or find a different target, there are many situations where this is not a solution. What if the victim is smaller than the bully? What if he/she is not physically, emotionally, or mentally capable of handling a physical confrontation?What if he/s…
Conversation with a bully . . . .
Why do some people use physical or verbal—including social media—tactics to make another person feel uncomfortable or harassed? Why do they push their victim to the breaking point? Does it make them feel better to make another person feel worse? Here are three conversations with people—two kids and one adult—who readily admit they are bullies.
·My name is “S”, and I am 12 years old. I don’t think I’m a bully. I just like to have fun, and teasing is fun. That’s all it is anyway—teasing. You may call it bullying, but if a kid is too quiet to tell me to stop it, then that’s their problem not mine.
·I’m “E” and I’m 15 years old. My BFF didn’t like this other girl that was two years younger than us. I guess she looked at her boyfriend or something. Anyway, we decided to get her back. We sent her texts about her ugly hair, her braces and the way she walked. We even took pictures of her with our phones and posted comments—not mean, really, but ones to make peop…